Being stuck can take on so many different forms….
We know something has to change, but we don’t know how to do it.
How do you know you’re stuck?
You don’t want to get out of bed because it feels like groundhog day every day.
You have no enthusiasm for your work. (Even when you’re successful)
You have no passion for your relationship.
You go through the motions without the emotion (excitement, enthusiasm, creativity, passion, motivation)
You have no desire to jump out of bed and start your day.
You have no goals that inspire you.
You’ve been feeling this way for a long time.
You’re telling the same sad story that you were last week, last month or maybe even last year.
You always have excuses to justify all of the above.
Fear is what keeps you stuck because it takes courage to change and the only way to get unstuck is to change.
1. Be willing to admit that things have to change (without judgment).
Sit quiet, go inside and ask these questions “do I really want things to change? “do I have the courage to go beyond my fear?” If the answer is yes, then you’ve taken the first step.
2. Be willing to get serious and take responsibility for making the change.
Next ask yourself the question “Am I willing to do what it takes to change?” “Am I willing to take full responsibility for making the change I say I want?” If the answer is yes then you’re ready for the next step.
If you wait until you know every detail on how you are going to change things, you’ll stay stuck. If you’re looking for guarantees, you’ll stay stuck. As long as you’re willing to do what it takes, the how will show itself because you’ll be looking for it. It may come in ways you least expect it once you’re open to making the change.
If you need help in finding the how, source out experts that can help. Someone who has the skills or someone who has achieved what you want.
4. Get clear on what you want in your life instead of what you have now.
Be careful to not get stuck on what you don’t want, and spend your time focusing on what isn’t working and how terrible it is and how bad you feel about it, and reinforcing it by talking about it and getting agreement from friends, family and colleagues.
Decide what you do want. Imagine how good you’ll feel when you’ve made the change. Think about it before you go to sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning. Daydream about it as if it is already real.
5. Only share this with people who will fully support you in making the change.
If you’re serious about becoming unstuck, you need all the support you can get. Only share this with people who will see you as fully capable of making the change. People who are with you no matter what you have decided. You can’t afford to use your energy to get people on board with you. You can’t afford the energy in defending your position. You can’t afford to spend your energy trying to please everyone else.
You have to trust yourself and know that you are making the right decision. And you know this by going inside to get your answer. It isn’t just in your head, it’s in your heart and gut as well.
When we’re stuck, there are many emotions lying beneath the surface that we do our best to suppress, but the truth is, sometimes it just seeps out…. or on other occasions, explodes. It affects our effectiveness at home, and at work. You can’t afford to let this get in the way of your success, fulfillment and happiness.
If this speaks to you, and you want to become unstuck before you become unglued, you’re ready. Have the courage to make the change so you can live a life without regrets.