Communication is everything.
Do you recognize yourself in any of these scenarios?
You are bursting with excitement and pick up the phone to call your best friend, and when you tell them, their response is disappointing.
As you’re driving home from work you are thinking about what you want to tell your partner when you get home. When you walk in the door to share, their response is not what you had hoped.
There is someone at work that you dread interacting with, but you have to. You know before you even begin the conversation that it isn’t going to go well….and you’re right, again!
Do you recognize yourself in any of these situation? Most of us have been on one side of these scenarios at some point. And it’s uncomfortable, frustrating and disheartening at times.
Imagine if you could learn how to change your response, or perhaps even theirs.
Well, you can!
You can learn how to communicate in a way that gets you the results you want. The key is that it’s a learned skill. Most of us “pay attention” to our communication in business, but completely ignore it in our personal relationships. We just do and say what we want when we want (and then wonder why we don’t get the results we want!)
The challenge is, even if we do “pay attention”, it takes much more than that to get the results you want in your life. It is a learned skill.
How can you communicate to get the results you want?
Here is one tip that you can implement into your life right now that will dramatically change your results:
As you enter any interaction, whether on the phone or in person, STOP and take the time to see where that person is at, and then meet them there.
What do we mean by this?
Listen. Pay attention to their tonality, volume and speed of their speech and then match them. If they are speaking in a soft voice and you bound in with high energy, you will lose them before you start. If they are speaking quickly and you take your time, slowly choosing your words, you will lose them. You will never get what you want out of that interaction if you don’t match them first. Once you do that, there is an immediate connection and you are off to the races.
Look. If it is a face to face interaction it’s even easier. You can listen, but you also have the benefit of noticing their body language. Are they sitting or standing? Tall or slouched? Quick moving or still? You can even notice subtle things like their breathing. When you match them (yes, you can even match their breathing rhythm) , they instantly feel a connection and are much more open to hearing what you have to say……therefore you have a much higher likelihood of getting what you want out of that interaction.
As we said, this is a learned skill.
Building rapport takes a conscious effort but the rewards are endless. There are several aspects to consider, but I can guarantee you, if you take the time to STOP and find out where they are at and meet them there, you will notice that your interactions change dramatically. You will get a lot more of what you want in your life, both personally and professionally.
If you’d like to learn more about how to build meaningful, harmonious relationships that get you the results you want in your life, please call us at 778-294-0447 or email firstname.lastname@example.org. We’d love to chat with you about how we can help.